Sunday, November 30, 2008

Tofurky or Turkey Head? NEITHER!

by Emily

Dear Bossy Readers,

The Happy Diners

You haven't left many comments lately. We miss you. Are you okay? Have you recovered? Have you been busy these past few days? Do feel as though you've been hit, or sucked into, a hurricane? I do. But we've been slacking on the posts as well, and we beg your bossy forgiveness. I'm a little surprised more of you haven't bossed us around to get back to posting--but then I must assume you're busy bossing others around, don't have energy to boss us around, and that is why you come here to get bossed. Or something like that. At least, that is how it is for me. Anyway--WE'RE BACK! in full swing!

The Delectable Spread


This was our second Vegetarian Thanksgiving. Joe's extended family is vegetarian, it is always a pleasure visiting them. So, I thought that while some of you are vegetarian and this is nothing new, many of you are not--and cannot imagine Thanksgiving without a *turkey. Here is what it looked like:


*While I very much looked forward to this Thanksgiving, aware of the lack of turkey and feeling fine with that, I kept on looking forward to leftover sandwiches on Melissa's kNot Rolls (recipe here), with cranberry jelly and turkey---wait---it didn't hit me: no turkey=no leftover turkey sandwiches on kNot rolls w/cranberry sauce. Waaaah...

P.S. If you want any recipes--speak up! For example, the keynote vegetarian dish was a gourmet mushroom and tofu casserole (as in the french word casserole-- say it with a french accent!) with a delicate savory mushroom sauce, topped with real mashed potatoes. Merci, Uncle Doug!

Friday, November 28, 2008

Black Friday

I did Black Friday a few years ago. I got up at 4:00 AM to hit the sale at the sporting good store and got the sunglasses for $49.95 and then went to Costco in the afternoon the next week and saw them there for $39.99. Brother.

Do you really want to do this?

I think I will stay home and make French Toast (try it with Hawaiian Sweet Bread - so good)

If you decide to do Black Friday (or any Christmas shopping) here is some advice:

  • Don't go hungry. Eat a breakfast with protein and take a granola bar or cheese stick with you. Toss a water bottle in the car too.
  • Make a list of exactly what you need. Don't count on your post-thanksgiving-feast brain to remember who gets what. This is not a time to wing it. Stick to your list.
  • Research first. Make sure the deal you are getting is really a deal. Some stores jack the "original" price up to make the "sale" price look better than it really is.
  • Prioritize. You need sleep to be a nice person. Do you really want to stand in line overnight for a chance to buy one of 20 Wii's at Sam's Club for $70? Really?
  • Check out this site and other sites like it before you shop.
  • Forget fashion and wear your comfortable shoes. No one functions well when their feet hurt.
  • Be polite to fellow shoppers and clerks. Smile, make cheerful small talk, express gratitude. Spread that Christmas cheer! It might protect you from getting shanked when you grab someone's $70 Wii.

Did you do Black Friday today? Tell us about it! (Did you get shanked?)

Thursday, November 27, 2008

Live in Thanksgiving.

As we express our gratitude, we must never forget that the highest appreciation is not to utter words, but to live by them. --JFK




Melissa here--- I'm thankful to live in a time when we can be connected to people that are far away- internet, cell phones, email, airplanes... they all bring us closer together. I'm also thankful for ziplock bags, dancing in the kitchen and knock knock jokes that aren't really funny.





Kristen here--- I'm thankful for the joy and laughter my two boys bring me everyday; for a teenager who only acts like a teenager 10% of the time, and for a 12 year old who loves to help me and make me happy! I am also so thankful for the jingle that my dog's collar makes; it's a little thing, but it makes me happy!



Sally here--I am thankful for sweet funny children, my husband, fresh fruit, my sisters and the rest of my family, my husband's family, and sunshine and a trip to the beach on Thanksgiving day.

Robin here --- I'm thankful for a husband who wants to take care of me and kids who want to have fun with me. And my fuzzy warm socks, and my freakin' awesome cooking skills. I made the best meal of my life today. Everything I touched turned out perfect. I'm also thankful for electricity and my gas fireplace. And the blinds that go from the top down or from the bottom up. Those are really cool.

Wednesday, November 26, 2008

We have a winner!

Wendy over at DC Diva is our Christmas Mix CD winner! I have stalked her blog and she has an adorable baby boy.

Wendy, your CD should be arriving any day. I hope you will love it!

Monday, November 24, 2008

The Last Lecture




Reading is a passion of mine, but in the past few years my reading has become an act of listening. I go to the library and check out books on CD and listen as I travel back and forth to work. It is a fabulous way to "read". I do miss snuggling into the sofa with a Diet Cherry Pepsi and a book though.

Recently I was given a book, a real book, with written words, and I really wanted to read it, so I made the time. I haven't finished it, but I can tell you already that if you haven't read it yet, you really should.

The book is titled, "The Last Lecture" by Randy Pausch. The forward reads, "A lot of professors give talks titled "The Last Lecture." Professors are asked to consider their demise and to ruminate on what matters most to them"... Randy Pausch "didn't have to imagine it as his last, since he had recently been diagnosed with terminal cancer. But the lecture he gave - "Really Achieving Your Childhood Dreams" - wasn't about dying".

I know a little about this kind of cancer, Pancreatic Cancer, as it was the type that took my father-in-law last year on Father's Day. He had been diagnosed about a month prior, and just had time to put affairs in order and say his good-byes. Randy Pausch did the same thing, in a magnificent way.

His lecture is uplifting, humorous, and touching. One of my favorite anecdotes so far is in Chapter 10, "Winning Big". He says,




"One of my earliest childhood dreams was to be the coolest guy at any amusement park or carnival I visited. I always knew exactly how that kind of coolness was achieved.

The coolest guy was easy to spot: He was the
one walking around with the largest stuffed animal."

The entire book is written in that positive, childlike perspective. It's uplifing and it reminds you of what truly is important. It touches on the sweet relationship with his wife and kids, and the conflict his desires in his last months present as his time is not equal to the things he wants and needs to do. At one point he tells his wife, "An injured lion still wants to roar." As you read, you realize that this lecture is his last great roar.

It's worth your time. I've been snuggled in my couch reading, and at this time in my life I wouldn't sacrifice my time like that for most books. So get a Diet Cherry Pepsi, "The Last Lecture", and a comfy corner of the couch and join me, and in January, we'll do a blog book-club of this great book! Invite your friends, the more the merrier.

You can buy this book at Costco for $12.49, and at Amazon, new and used for $12.00.

S e x

Gentle Readers,

I know how it is. You think about sex. Maybe you dread it, maybe you crave it. I hope you crave it. If not, I have help for you.


Good in Bed


I think most of our readers are fairly conservative and treat the subject of sex with respect and dignity. I bet most of our readers were not very sexually active before marriage. I wasn’t. My parents were pretty open with me. But they didn’t tell me how to get what I wanted. And for a nice girl like me, good information can be difficult to find.

In fact, the few times I have looked for information on sex I have been bombarded and subjected to images that I would really rather not see over and over in my mind.

But we need to talk about it. Really! We need a place to talk about it in a safe, healthy, tasteful, comfortable environment. One that treats it like it should be treated: special. Someplace where we can ask questions and not be afraid of the answers.

I found the site for this. This link takes you to an article called "When Virgins Collide" about virgins getting married. It is an anonymous site where women blog about and ask and answer questions about sex. The site isn't at all affiliated with our site or any of our bloggers. The site is written by LDS women, and you probably know that the LDS church teaches, like some other churches, that sexual intimacy should be reserved for marriage. That conservative viewpoint is reflected in the topics and comments on the blog, and the bloggers ask that everyone be respectful in their comments. The "adult content" first page is because of the subject matter, but there are no explicit photos or lewd content to be concerned about. We understand this isn't for everybody, but we also know a LOT of women who we care about that might benefit from this.

Now, Go love your husbands!


Good in Bed

Sunday, November 23, 2008

It's the Little Things.

My turn to share my favorites. You'll note that Sally's faves are all very literary and smart. She is chic and classy.

My favorites aren't classy. At all. But, they are my favorites! I asked my Favorite friend what I should post, she knows me so well, she rattled off a bunch of things that I rave on day in and day out.

When she said Downy, I immediately went dreamy eyed and said in a soft voice, "ohhhh, I love Downy!" I love my Downy Ball too. I do so stinkin' much laundry it is crazy. I keep imagining what empty laundry baskets would look like, but I never get there. I love the way Downy smells. I close my eyes and it feels like my Mom's laundry. I think I could drink it. Downy keeps me happy while I continue to gather, sort (ok, I don't sort, but I know it is one of the "steps"), load, reboot, fold, put away. Rinse and Repeat.

I love to make bows and tie pretty packages! I love this site for its beautiful and reasonable selection of Ribbon.

I am a Wal-Mart Shopper, but I always shop with a handful of munchkins. I also have to go for the best deals and this season WalMart's Site to Store is just what the doctor ordered. I can do all my comparison shopping online, then fill up my "cart", use my card or even PayPal account, then pick it all up at the store in an unmarked (read: non-Santa Spoiling) box.

Please, if you like candy canes and white chocolate don't try a bag of Candy Cane Kisses. Really, they aren't that good. Promise. Leave them on the shelf for someone else. (Me.) They make great Buttons too... (I usually use Snaps- you know the checkerboard pretzels? and Holiday M&M's.) It is a great kid project!
After the Christmas music post I got itching for some new tunes... but really, I don't need more CDs. In steps Pandora. Pandora.com is a free website where you type in what kind of music you want (I tried Amy Grant Christmas) and it shuffles music by that artist and similar artists. I Love It! Try it! (My techy husband also hooks my laptop up to my kitchen speakers, how cool is that?) I'm listening right now! Nice. The best I've found is Jim Brickman Holiday, it is very nice background music.
I love this show! I totally look at my "wardrobe" differently! I wonder if I could nominate my daughters...

Lastly, my favorite comedian. Brian Regan makes me laugh hard.


Friday, November 21, 2008

Have Fun with Baby Jesus!

The Fisher-Price Little People Nativity Set

Melissa's family gave this to us last year. If you don't have one for kids to play with, this is worth buying (or maybe G&G want to give it to you).

Our set, and I tell this because it is a funny story, came with 2 Josephs and no Mary. Woops! But, Fisher-Price has excellent customer service.

I simply called the number on the box, and they are shipping me an entire bag of characters for free. Easy. So now we will have duplicates, I think I'll give them to the children's nursery at our church--one of the wise men looks like a possible stand in for Mary.


I like it when I randomly find sweet baby Jesus in surprising places during the day.

















Quick, bossy sisters (including readers), help me fold my laundry!!! Baby Jesus does look pretty comfy though.

Thursday, November 20, 2008

Ho, ho, ho, Merrrrrry music! (and a giveway!)

by Sally

At our house, it's that time again. Christmas music time. Christmas is a powerful holiday and induces some people to do things at an inappropriately early time. My old neighbor across the street put up her Christmas tree the day after Halloween. On Nov. 1, it shone bright and sparkly from her front window while I sat looking at it from my living room eating my kids' trick-or-treat candy. Or there's Paige, my friend who got her Christmas lights up a little on the early side(October 21) this year, but her kids like them and Paige has been getting lots of mileage from them.



For me, it's Christmas music. I love it, and I break it out early. Not the day after Halloween, but not too far into November either. Christmas music is uplifting and optimistic, full of the promise of Christmas itself. Music in general has that amazing power to turn a boring or frustrating moment into something better. I started listening to Christmas music in earnest this week. I don't discriminate during the holidays--I love all kinds of Christmas music: country, classical, Hawaiian slack key (yes, I really do have a Hawaiian slack key Christmas CD, it is great), latin, pop, rock, folk, children's, new age, jazz, r&b, and choral. I don't have any punk, hip-hop or electronica Christmas music yet. Maybe you can recommend some to me.

Below are a few of my favorite Christmas CDs, and I suggest you give them a listen (I linked most over to amazon so you can hear clips, or you could use your library to check out a CD before you buy it!). I want to share them with you, so read on to the end and leave a comment, because you might get a Christmas CD from me!

All-time favorites:






A tie between these two Amy Grant CDs (A Christmas Album and The Christmas Collection). I have been listening to them forever. She has a total of 5 Christmas CDs, and these two are the best. This is good for car listening because you can crank it up loud and sing along. I rock out on Emmanuel, and cry on Breath of Heaven. My husband teases me about how much I love these CDs. I never listen to any other Amy Grant music.



Always a popular choice:





Mannheim Steamroller, Christmas Celebration. Some of the songs sound a little like 80's aerobics music, but we all love it, right? My kids dance around like cheerful rock stars when we play this music. I'm pretty impressed by what these people did with their Mannheim Steamroller Christmas music (that thing in the upper right corner is a movie of Santa):













Some music you might not have tried:



Take 6, He is Christmas. This group is mostly a capella. The other bossy sisters are equally addicted. If you were in high school jazz choir, you will go nuts for this, otherwise you might find it a bit cheesy.


To add peace and tranquility to your home:


Narada Christmas Collection. Beautiful, mostly acoustic guitar.






Liz Story, The Gift. This fascinating cover art won the Boring Design of The Year Award. The music is lovely, not boring at all.


For all the baby bloggers out there:



Baby Einstein, Baby Santa. It sounds cute and xylophoney, like all Baby Einstein products. The little kids dig it.



For your Christmas Party:


Michael Buble, Let It Snow. It's good but there are only 6 songs on it. Which is why it only costs $6.



Sarah McLachlan, Wintersong








James Taylor (That's the original JT, Paige), at Christmas. This is not his music video. I couldn't find any for my Christmas music.


Romantic Christmas music:


Josh Groban, Noel. The guy can sing.

To make your house sound like a Christmas store at the mall:





Hugs for the Holidays. Super duper cheesy, but I like it for background music.


Majestic Christmas music to blast on Christmas morning in order to wake up the adults and teenagers:



MoTab, Joy To The World. This belongs in everyone's collection. It is commanding in it's official Christmasness. Break it out at 7 AM on Christmas morning and even the moody adolescents will come running.



This is just the tip of the iceberg of my Christmas music collection. I bet you have favorites too, and I am sure there is great music out there that I'm missing, so leave a comment with your favorite music (or just leave a comment!). I want to share the music I love, so I will randomly select one comment and send that reader a mix CD of some of my Christmas favorites! Leave your comment by 8:00 PM Friday, Nov 21.


Merry music to you!

Wednesday, November 19, 2008

Unexpected Kindness

Many years ago we had an auction at church to raise money for an activity. People donated everything from delicious cinnamon rolls, to dental services, to homemade crafts and yard work. It was great. One of the women had painted a hatbox. I loved the colors and design and had been saving my dollars to bid on something I really wanted and decided this was it! As the bidding commenced several people showed interest, but soon it was narrowed down to just a few of us. I continued to bid until it was just Jolyn and myself taking turns ratcheting up the price, finally, defeated and overpriced, I dropped out.

I came home that evening disappointed that I hadn't been able to get the hatbox that would so perfectly match my decor. As we drove up to the house I saw something sitting on the porch. I got out of the car and walked over to see the hatbox, with a card on top. Inside it read, "How often do you get to give a gift to someone that you know they truly want? Enjoy! Love, Jolyn". I will never forget that experience. I will always love Jolyn for that kindness.

This is one of those little unexpected kindnesses that moves me to tears, I'm teary just remembering it. How thoughtful, how simple and generous. Sometimes those unexpected kindnesses are physical gifts, sometimes they are a service someone does for you, and sometimes, they are just a kind word, that smile, or the unexpected compliment from a stranger.

So here is your bossing for today...tell us about an unexpected kindness that was extended to you, AND, each day this week, extend kindness to others, unexpectedly. Go to!



My Cherished Hatbox! (Thank you Jolyn!!!)

Tuesday, November 18, 2008

Christmas Candy House

Thanksgiving 2007
NOT the perfect house...but still lots of fun.


Before Sally had kids we stayed up one Thanksgiving night until 3:00 AM working on the most amazing candy Christmas house ever built. It was so perfect it would have won awards. One of my deathbed regrets will be, that in our sugar induced coma, we didn't think to take pictures.

I have tried to recreate that house ever since. We build the house the day after Thanksgiving and work on it most of the day.

Easy Candy House:
  1. Buy lots of different candy:
    • smarties, m&ms, kisses, licorice, skittles, sixlets, jelly beans, Mike & Ikes, lemon drops, candy canes, butter mints, starburst mints, pretzel sticks, circus peanuts, necco wafers, good n'plenty, gum drops, Dots, small cookies and crackers
  2. Collect boxes (cereal, crackers, Pringle cans make good turrets)
  3. Duct tape boxes together into house/castle shape, duct tape house to a foil/paper lined cookie sheet
  4. Cover boxes with graham crackers - using the frosting recipe below
  5. Invite friends and family to help - it is a lot of work - the more the merrier!
  6. Play favorite fun Christmas CD (Harry Connick Jr. always gets me dancing around)
  7. Put candy into bowls. It is exciting to see all that candy!
  8. Using the frosting, glue all the candy to the house. Go crazy!
  9. Take a picture of the final product and email it to us at bossysisters@gmail.com (we will judge them in all different categories and declare winners!)
  10. Let the kids pick at it until it is gross and then throw it away.
In this picture you can see the duct-taped house , some of the bowls of candy, the frosting, and the technique used to apply crackers and candy. Once the house is covered with candy you don't even notice the crackers.

Some houses are neat and tidy, like this one from 2006:

Others are a huge glorious gluttonous celebration of sugar:
Hannah, Curt, and Holly work on the neat and tidy house from 2006.

Most of the kisses, gum drops, lemon drops, and Dots were missing 2 days after this house was done.

Royal Icing:

2 large egg whites
2 teaspoons fresh lemon juice
3 cups (330 grams) confectioners (powdered or icing) sugar, sifted

Mix until smooth. This icing dries and hardens quickly so keep a damp paper towel nearby to cover it when not using. I usually divide it up into several small bowls so everyone can share a small bowl. I usually end up doubling this recipe.

Remember to email us the picture of your house and we will announce the winner!
bossysisters@gmail.com

What should we call this contest?
Should there be a prize?
What is the prize?

Monday, November 17, 2008

No, they're Knot.

I clearly remember driving, over the river and through the woods to get to my Grandparents house for Thanksgiving. I remember it being cold outside and warm inside the house, the windows steamy from so many people breathing and food cooking. The bathroom was always in use. The tri-onimos were always spread on the card table, puzzles too. The rocking love seat, brown and flowery was cozy, with Grandpa and his rough hands waiting for a cuddle and a tickle. I loved going there. I loved playing in the basement with my cousins. It was heaven.

The food was heaven too. All I remember were the rolls. I'm sure there was turkey, stuffing, the works, but the Rolls. ahhh. I remember sneaking through the kitchen and swiping them off the pans. Warm and buttery. Maybe that is why I can't remember the rest of the meal. I was full before we even sat down.

If you make rolls for your Thanksgiving dinner, good for you. Keep it up. If you don't, Please try it. It is not that hard and I promise, it makes the meal. Brown and serve just don't cut it.

Here are the step by steps.



Grandma Cutler's Thanksgiving Rolls
2 cups warm water
2 packages yeast (that is 4 1/2 tsp)
Let that sit and get nice and foamy.
Add 1/3 cup sugar
1/3 cup shortening (I like butter flavored. But then, you'll see, I add butter every chance I get)
1 tsp salt
1 egg

Mix this all together. It will be sloshy and the shortening might just be glops. That is ok. Now start adding flour. You'll end up with between 4 and 6 cups. Nice window huh. You don't want it too sticky because you'll have to roll it out, but if is too sticky, you'll just add flour while you roll it out. All good. Don't be afraid. Ideally you want to add just enough flour that it pulls away from the bowl. Let the mixer run for about 5 minutes. (I think I added too much this time, but the whole pan was gone in about 15 minutes so it must have been ok.)

Next, cover it up and go read or surf or swaddle and rock your baby for about an hour (let it double in size.)

Don' t you just love how my couch and dishtowels match? Comment if you bought the same sofa 13 years ago in Provo. :)

Next you're going to roll it out. Go for about 1/2 inch thick... Plenty of flour on your harvest gold counter top. What? Yours aren't Harvest Gold? How sad for you. They are so cheery.
For Knot Rolls, you'll just make a knot, then tuck the ends in. Easy Peasy. Cute too.

When it comes time to shape your rolls you have lots of options. Grandma Cutler just made nice round circles, then dipped them in melted butter (lovely orange Ikea bowl above) and folded them in half. They don't stay folded well when they rise, but that is ok. You can slice them (Using your pizza cutter is a must) in triangles and roll them like crescent rolls, or make 3 round balls and pop them in a muffin tin. All great options, just remember to douse them with melted butter. For knot rolls, slice into about 1/2 inch strips, maybe 6 inches? I dunno, you'll be able to tell when you are doing it.

I think I prefer knot rolls. They are beautiful, but I like them mostly because of the playful banter with the kids.

"What are you making mom?"
"Knot Rolls."
"Yes they are."
"No, they are Knot."
"Uh huh. I can see them, right there."
"Nope, those are knot rolls"

You get the picture, it goes on as long as it takes to shape them all.

Here are the various shapes, then before the final rising, after the rising and lastly ready for eating.


Ok, back to the recipe. You aren't done yet. Brush them liberally with melted butter. Cover them and let them rise again-- maybe 15- 20 minutes, or until you can't wait any longer. Bake at 400* for 10ish minutes. (Less if you have a lovely"broken in" (black) pan like mine. I lurve my pan)

So, there. Your bossing for the day. Make a batch of rolls. (You'll probably want to double it. Just think of the left over turkey sandwiches. mmmmm.) (Oh, but if you do double it, move it to a bigger bowl for the first rising... trust me.)

Sunday, November 16, 2008

Have More Fun! (on the internet)

by Emily

It's time to Lighten Up and Have More Fun! The other night, out with some friends (Hi, FC!) we got to talking about funny websites. Here are a few to get you started:


"You know what? Never mind. There is nothing wrong with this."


I've already posted about Fugly here.

Fugly is the New Pretty
www.gofugyourself.com



















Feeling like a failure lately? You can find some company here:


FAIL BLOG
www.failblog.org

















And this one takes the cake--the baby shower cake!

CAKE WRECKS
www.cakewrecks.blogspot.com










These are sites I haven't found on my own, so a shout out to you who have shared them with me! What are some of your favorite sites for laughs?

Saturday, November 15, 2008

DON'T just say No.

by Sally


You know that sound you make to someone instead of saying "No!" or "Don't you even think about it!". The one that sounds like "Ah-ah-aah!" (No. Not a-ha. Let's try again.) You know, your voice escalates to a higher pitch and more urgent/forceful sound with each Ah, and the last Aaah is held just a second longer and made into two syllables with the second syllable dropping in pitch.


Do it with me now:

Ah- ah-aaaahh!

Well, for readers who have babies or who will be having babies in the future, I'm going to let you in on a little tip. Are you ready?

It is not cute or heartwarming when little 1 year olds yell "No!". I had a friend who bemoaned the fact that "no" was the first word all her children learned. It's not charming or adorable. And your baby is definitely charming and adorable. So instead of saying "no" to your baby, in any circumstance in which you might say "no", substitute "Ah-ah-aaah". Even though baby may hear you saying "no" to other people, she will won't pick it up for a long time.


And, she may say "Ah-ah-aaah" when she means "no", and that is adorable.


It's important to make sure everyone is on board with this plan. If one parent or caregiver is frequently saying "no", this trick won't really work.

The non-"no" effect has lasted with my children as they've gotten older. They rarely yell no, not even when they are really upset.


Happy ah-ah-aaahhing!

Friday, November 14, 2008

Looking Forward

You know how sometimes you get a glimpse of the future, an inkling of what's to come? Sometimes they are happy windows into the coming years, sometimes sad, sometimes they are a little of both - at the same time.

One night not so long ago I was sitting on the couch and my big, long, skinny, 6 foot 2 inch 15 year old son was lying on the couch with his head in my lap. We were facing the same direction so he couldn't see me as I looked down at him. I was tickling his back and playing with his hair and remembering how little he used to be. There is a little swirl of hair right at the nape of his neck that swoops around and I was twirling it through my fingers when it dawned on me that someday someone else would be doing this. Someday he would be married and his wife would tickle his back, watch him while he lay resting, and swirl this little curl around her fingers. As I thought this I felt jealous, and possessive, unready to think about such a thing when he was still my little boy. Hot tears prickled at my eyes.

Finally I said in my normal, non-crying voice, what I was thinking. I left out the jealousy and possessiveness, and just talked about how someday someone else would be doing this. He was quiet for a minute, then he said, "Wow, that's weird to think about...and, kinda sad." That did it, the tears began to roll down my cheeks, but not wanting to ruin the moment, I kept it quiet. Then I told him it was kinda sad for me too. We sat there like that for a while. I told him it makes me feel like I want to spend as much time as I can with him, to enjoy him as much as possible before he grows up. I said, “because tomorrow will come and you’ll be gone; on your mission, at college, married.” And I cried some more.

The conversation turned to the many hours I've been spending at work lately. I told him I was sorry I'd been gone so much and he told me that at first when I was gone so much he liked the extra freedom. But now, he said, he just missed me. He said that having his friends over wasn't nearly as much fun when I wasn't around to tell funny jokes, talk to his friends, or say silly things that kind of embarrass him. He said those things made him feel good.

We sat quietly like that for a while, enjoying just being together. Eventually I told him I needed to get some work done and I tried to pry him off of me. He finally let me get up, and as I walked into the other room, I could feel his teardrops on my pants where his head had laid.







Thursday, November 13, 2008

Get a Hobby

Lets go back 15 years. I was stuck at home. Going anyplace at all was pure hell. It required 30 minutes of pre-trip planning and 1 hour of post-trip recovery. I was stuck at home with 4 kids. I needed an easy way out of the house.

Voila! Gardening! One of my goals is to be a Master Gardener. I started at age 30 and I still feel passionate about it.

As soon as the weather was good we would move outside. The fresh air, the chirping birds, the smell of dark earth – I loved it all. My kids would eat the plants I taught them to eat. Ike would crawl around with a big rock in his mouth, Hannah would swing as high as she could and sing loud, Gabe would play Spiderman on the trampoline, Noah would roll up lambs ear leaves and stick them in his ears and crawl around saying, “Baa, Baa” until I patted him on the head.

In the garden with cousin Curt - 1995.

Roland knew it was a good day when he would come home after a long day of money making and find me and the kids in the backyard covered with dirt, grass and dried leaves. I loved it when he would pick the dead-headed flowers out of my ponytail. It was so romantic.

If you want a garden, this winter is the perfect time to start. Go to the library and check out all the interesting gardening books. Pour over them this winter. Make a binder and jot down ideas, things you like, pictures that inspire you, lists of plants you would love to have. Draw your yard and sketch in flowers and bushes, trees and herb gardens. Use colored pencils. I still have mine from years ago and they are fun to look at. I even took pictures of my yard for future reference and kept a garden journal with suggestions for improvements and records of what worked and what didn't.

A page from my Garden Journal 1995. I made the plan in the winter and the red pen has the spring update.

Gardeners are the nicest people. If you have questions about gardening they are quick to help and even give you some plants! One of my favorite web pages is GardenWeb.com http://forums.gardenweb.com/forums/ you can find all kinds of helpful information and regional support! I even found a semi-annual plant swap here in Colorado, where gardeners are few and far between.

So, if you are looking for a new hobby, consider gardening. You’ll get lots of good exercise, your yard will be beautiful, your kids will be healthy, you will even have a more passionate marriage (it must be the gardening…).

Wednesday, November 12, 2008

Book'em Danno.

My Babies have all loved to be swaddled. Beginning from day one, we make a burrito baby and you could see them go "aaahhhh.... Thank goodness, those arms were making me crazy waving all around!"

My "baby" turned 1 last month. sob sob, sniffle sniffle We still swaddle him. It is funny to watch him fall asleep. I love it, it is my favorite thing and not just because he is sleeping. I love to watch him relax.

Last night, while contemplating what to blog, I watched my sweet husband wrap him tighter than imaginable and rock him on his lap to dream land. I was inspired! Here is today's Bossing! Swaddle!



Sleep tight.
I feel compelled to add that time of swaddle was 7:13, time entering dreamland was 7:15. It works I tell ya!